A woman’s work is never done, and that’s why it’s important for us to stop and breath every now and then. The only problem is finding the time. Often we, as moms, wives, and employees put ourselves on the back burner until we are all burned out. Here are a few things that you can do to change that.
Know The Science
Stressing yourself out with an overfilled schedule will not help you make or save money. The truth is when we are stressed we spend more. We spend on relaxation techniques. We spend on comfort food. We spend on books that teach us to de-stress, but we never read them because we are too busy stressing out.
Not only that there are the medical ramifications of stress. It destroys sleeping habits, eating habits, and our immune system. We don’t take the time to let our body rest or heal when we are ill. It can cause our body to tear itself apart from the inside.
It is said that when you prioritize things in your life, those things in your life that shouldn’t be there will fall out of it. Often we bite off more than we can chew. Take the things that are important to you ( family, friends, work, etc.) and set a schedule for them. Those things that lack importance (like television reruns from the 90’s) will go to your back burner instead of you or work or your family life.
The next thing we need to do is accept that we are not super human. We can’t fit everything we need to do into one day, though it doesn’t stop most of us from trying. An overfilled schedule not only reduces the chance to take a much needed break, it leaves you with a short fuse and an unhappy family. Spread your chore list out throughout the week. It’s easier to get a few big items taken care of per day than a month’s worth.
This coming week is a time when women all over the United States will be stressing out and scrubbing every square inch in their home. They will be planning their Thanksgiving menu, buying everything, and then coming home and stressing over what they forgot. This is why it’s important to take a day to just be calm before the storm that Thanksgiving can be. What do you do on this day of calm? You make sure you don’t overspend by thinking your way out of your panic state.
You seemed to have forgotten the rolls on your last shopping trip. You plan to have rolls, biscuits, and various types of sweet bread. Take a deep breath and admit to yourself that it will be okay that you forgot the rolls. While someone may notice, there are plenty of yummy bread staples around to make your roll absence not a huge loss. You and your family will still have a great Thanksgiving without the rolls.
You Need Help
Ask your family for help. You do not have six arms and you do need sleep. Trying to do it all by yourself is only going to cause you frustration and waste ingredients when things don’t come together as planned. The best way for everything to come together is for everyone to take on some small part of your Thanksgiving planning. Trying to do it all by yourself will just cause stress and holiday drama.
Let People Bring Something
People offer to bring stuff to your festivities, but you keep saying no. You’re the hostess and you will do it all by yourself. Well, stop it. Let people bring something with them. It helps some people feel needed or feel good that a certain recipe is requested. It helps you keep costs down as well as work load.
Now take a deep breath… and exhale. You will survive Thanksgiving!
We all have stress filled busy lives whether we are stay at home moms, or ladies with a career to carry out. Sometimes it’s hard to find the time to just take a breather ourselves. It’s even harder to fit that breather into our schedules and budgets. Here are a few ways to do just that.
Have a picnic. Sunlight is good for us and has a way of making many things just feel better. Fresh air and a blue sky can take you away from the stress of the office even if your lunch break is only half an hour. Find a nearby park, a public library with a little garden, or even sit under a tree in a parking lot. You will find yourself refreshed and a bit more ready to face the rest of your day.
Extra Long Grooming
Brushing your hair or lightly scratching your scalp helps reduce stress. A long shower with a scented body wash, a bubble bath, or scented candles are all relaxing. Even an extra long shower helps wash that stress away. This one is highly recommended to those who love their family but need a little me time. Nobody can find much fault in an extra long hygiene routine.
Go To The Library
If your kids are driving you crazy, and you need to get out of the house, go to the library. Most libraries have an enclosed children section with one entrance/exit. Sit next to this spot so you can ensure your children stay within that area. Remind them that the library is a quiet zone and let them pick out books. Take advantage of story time if it is available. Some book stores also have a story time followed by an arts and crafts activity. You can even have the children bring you a few books and have your own reading time. At the very least you will get to sit down in a semi quiet setting.
The Hand Off
When your spouse gets home hand something off. Can you just not bare to see another dish today? Do you need a half hour child free? Are you okay with hot dogs tonight, just as long as you don’t have to cook them? Give your spouse a few minutes to breath and then ask to hand off one of these responsibilities. After al,l we all need a little help every now and then.
Most of us have been there. Those months where things get tighter or when unexpected expenses take over and make your financial situation seem dire. It can be awfully stressful. But there are some things you can think about and do to help your situation.
1. Try not to stress. So much more easily said than done, but psychologically worrying and stressing about money will make it worse. Worry, fear and doubt usually paralyze more than they actually help. Write your thoughts out, talk to a friend or seek some kind of financial counseling. It will be better to deal with your financial problems with a clear head.
2. Prioritize. If you can’t pay your bills, you’ll need to prioritize your bills. Personally I think food and your mortgage/rent are the most important. Remember that other bills are sometimes negotiable. If you can’t pay your credit card bills, call them and work something out. So often people will work with you if you’ll just ask.
3. Cut back. This is tough, but it’s a very easy way to take off some pressure. You don’t NEED cable or the most expensive phone package. Think about cutting back and relieving that stress. Even a couple hundred dollars a month will help a ton.
4. Plan, plan, plan! I can’t even begin to explain how much this has helped us. Anytime we’ve been in a financial bind, we feel better just planning our strategy. It also brings my husband and I closer when we can communicate about these things more.
5. Spend $10 on yourself. I know this sounds counterproductive, but “buying stuff” helps me save. The mentality of “I can’t buy this” or “I can’t afford that” is very taxing on the psyche. Sometimes something as simple as a $10 bottle of nail polish will get you through months of less spending and even cutting back. It’s purely psychological, but it helps me.
What do you do when finances get tight?